A victim mindset believes that they are at the mercy of life circumstances and they do not have the ability to change them. This mindset keeps you feeling small and inadequate as it cannot see past victim hood and discover unique solutions and options for positive change. In the eyes of a victim, everyone and everything is to blame for anything negative event that happens in the beholder’s life. Someone with a victim mindset normally expects the worst possible outcomes, all of the time! Victims crave the sympathy and will seldom take responsibility for their negative behaviours. When a person embraces this victim approach towards life, they are not in control of their life but are led by the unhelpful patterns of thinking that keep them stuck.
“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” – Steve Maraboli
Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear that we’re not good enough, are the primary concerns that run through most people’s lives. When left unresolved, these fears can become deeply rooted beliefs that make persons feel helpless seeing themselves as mere victims of circumstance and unable to make the changes that they want to see in their lives. What many victims don’t understand is that fear can serve us in a valuable way, it can help us to break through our frustrations to achieve the outcomes in life that we want.
Positive people with a growth mindset makes success non- negotiable. Positive people know the cost of fear is unfulfillment. They understand that a victim mindset is nothing more than an unnecessary burden that holds people back from living exciting and rewarding lifestyles.
“People without a vision will perish” Proverbs 29:18.
Compelling life visions make for exciting life goals, and once you have a vision for your future, that’s bigger and better than merely serving yourself – achieving this goal will become an absolute must for you. Nothing else will matter. You will gladly make the sacrifices. Any excuses will go out the window, and you’ll know with absolute certainty that there’s no room left in your life for a victim mindset. So, how do you adopt a more powerful mindset in which fear becomes your ally and no longer your enemy?
Here’s four practical tips for getting rid of a victim mindset
1. Stretch Your Faith
Faith is the opposite of fear. To get rid of all the unwanted fears that hold back people from accomplishing their vision stop thinking about the ‘worst case scenario’ and start thinking about all the amazing possibilities. Start taking brave action. Once you start achieving positive momentum fear slowly but surely goes away. Exercise your faith muscle and practice taking action in ‘faith’ of the best possible outcomes happening, instead of being fearful of the worst.
2. Develop A Growth Mindset
A lot of times people give up on their dreams because they believe it is unattainable and beyond their ability. The good news here is that all people can do all things, all of the time. If you have a vision for your future but you are not confident in your abilities to fulfill it, then you simply need to develop yourself. Go out and learn a new skill, improve a current one and increase your value as a person. In life, our abilities are not stagnant, but instead, are flexible with the capacity of being expanded. The only thing stopping you from fulfilling your goals is the skills you haven’t learned yet.
3. Get Rid of Excuses
It is very easy to hid behind excuses for why we can’t accomplish our vision. The list is never- ending: ‘I don’t have the time’, ‘I don’t have enough money’, ‘I’m too old’, ‘The kids are too young’, etc. The problem with excuses is that they never go away. There will always be a logical reason you can tell yourself as to why you can’t get started. There will never be a perfect time besides now. No one else will fulfill your goals for you because no one else cares enough to, they are all out there pursuing their own – so you might as well do the same!